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Are Coaches Crossing the Line? Exploring the grey area between coaching and therapy
An Exploration of Roles, Borders & Boundaries (Carley Sime & Yannick Jacob at the 3rd AICTP Conference for Integrative Coach-Therapy Practice 2019) Over the years I’ve heard hundreds of people ask: “Are coaches crossing the line?” Students and experienced coaches alike are trying to figure out how far they can take this coaching thing, and…
Read MoreHelping Nice people sell more with Martin Stellar (Lab report # 26)
Martin Stellar, coach for ethical selling, joined us and helped his client reframe what selling means (to her), which in my experience is a crucial task to building a successful business, but one that most (nice) coaches find really challenging. I have no doubt that many of you will resonate with what Martin’s client brought…
Read MoreWhat is Positive Existential Coaching?
What matters most to people? How can we be happy? What’s the meaning of life? How can we find answers to the big questions in life? In this guest lecture to students of the post-graduate certificate in coaching at Birkbeck University, London, I explain how the science of positive psychology and existential philosophy can work…
Read MoreOntological Coaching with Aboodi Shabi
Coaching – It’s been taking the world of personal and professional development by storm and has become one of the fastest growing industries in the world with many coaches making six figures and many more struggling to enrol clients and eager to sharpen their skill set. In “Talking about Coaching”, I’m doing exactly what it…
Read MorePositive Psychology for times of crisis and transformation
Times of crisis affect us and our clients in various ways. Some see opportunity, others struggle to keep their lives from falling apart. Some seem unaffected emotionally and just “deal with it”, while others despair. Some of us “accept the challenge” and find meaning in the suffering, others crumble under the weight of the uncertainty…
Read MoreWhose line is it anyway: How far can & should coaches go?
This question keeps popping up for coaches at all levels! Have you found yourself asking: Is this still coaching? Do I need to refer my client to a therapist? Does my client really need therapy or counselling or can I hold this space myself? Am I allowed to give advise? Is that not something that…
Read MoreOn the Dialectics of Motivation: What we work for, what we’re working against and how they can work together
In this blog (which I initially wrote for the Hantu Collective) I’d like to briefly introduce positive psychology, existential thought and how they can come together to inspire people to live life to the fullest in all its facets. Along the way I’ll introduce the pillars of happiness, our main sources of anxiety and how…
Read MoreA Positive Existential Perspective on Behaviour Change
Change is the holy grail of psychology. Sometimes it’s easy. But often, we’re so caught up in our pre-existing patterns, beliefs and habits, that it seems impossible to think or do things differently. We find ourselves riddled by inner conflicts fueled by mutually exclusive desires. We want to lose weight and also eat what we…
Read MoreHow to love life when life kicks you in the gut
Life gives you lemons and throws you curved balls. The kind of lemons that squirt you right in the eye and the kind of curved balls that hit you straight in the sensitive parts. Life’s a bitch, a dick, an asshole; like “why are you treating me like this?!? Stop!! AAAAaaaaaah! It hurts!” At least…
Read MoreCoaching for Happiness: How the science of Positive Psychology can benefit your clients
The end goal of all clients coming for coaching tends to be some form of happiness or psychological wellbeing. Whether that’s a life of meaning and purpose, finding the love of their life or leaving a toxic relationship, whether it’s experiencing more joy, hope, security or belonging, getting a promotion or increasing their income. In…
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